I am proud and happy to bask in my imperfections. I get so sick of the compare and compete lifestyle we live in. If we aren't competing with "things" we are comparing our children or parenting skills. I mean let's just face it.. you are better than me, you do it better than me, you have better stuff than me. Ok can we get over it now?
I say this because I think our society and relationships have so many hidden comparisons and competitions. I am guilty of this too for sure. It's so hard NOT to buy into it because it's the consensus among everyone like a contagious disease that spreads from one snide comment onto another or from one bragging mouth to another. I mean who freaking cares? Are you happy? Then who cares how big or clean or nice your house is. Who cares what car someone drives or what trips they are going on. We could all have all the same things and just be in more and more debt. The things you don't see behind the big house or the fancy cars are the debt or lack of money for anything else. So why covet and bad mouth something you can't see the truth to anyway? You never know what is behind that smiling face and fancy this or that. So for me, I am just going to worry about myself and what makes ME happy. Be who I am. Buy what I like, do what's best for my family. If it means something someone else questions how I got it or why or how I am going to pay for that, then let that fall on their shoulders not mine. I am going to parent my kids the way that works for me. I am sorry if you don't agree or if you think you do it better. I don't care how you parent and I am not going to judge you I have more important things to do.
Disclosure: This is pointed at me. Not at anyone else. I am addressing my own thoughts and faults and imperfections. So don't get your panties in a twist.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Posted by Toni at 10:29 AM
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Well said friend--I hate all that crap as well! I agree that we need to just be content and happy with the people we are, and just try our best everyday! great post--I was actually thinking about this subj just the other day...
MY PANTIES ARE TWISTED!!! just kidding. I totally understand where you are coming from. This is one of the break through moments for our self worth that we need to take advantage of. You gain self strength when you are able to be true to yourself. It is so hard to be honest with yourself and that is so awesome that you can do it!!!
So, tell me how you really feel!! ;) Good thing I dont wear Panties!
My panties are in a wad, they always are. So if I have gotten after you in the past for 'your' thoughts it is all because of the panties.
Living for yourself is a hell of a lot better than living for someone else. I am glad you realize this and don't let the notion of it get you down.
I once was jealous of a friend I have. This was not a common/frequent feeling I come across so it startled me. It persisted for 3-6 months. Then one day I woke up and I couldn't remember what it was about her that got my panties in a wad. In fact, there wasn't one thing I could ever remember that caused me to feel that way. It was really strange. And to be honest, the first and hopefully last time I have ever felt that.
In the end, if you are not happy nothing else matters. I could not possibly care less what my neighbors are doing or have that I lack. When it comes down to it I am one lucky bastard :)
All that really matters is being happy and doing the best you can...so why do we care so much about what everyone else is doing?
You're so honest and open...thanks for the frequent moments of self-reflection!
Great post! You're correct, who the hell cares what everyone else is doing! Sometimes i get a little bite from the jealous bug over other people beautiful houses. But in reality, I'm so happy in my life and my house has nothing to do with it. I'm so glad your willing to talk about what you REALLY think. I have a hard time doing that.
I couldn't stop thinking about this post of yours. It really hit me harder than I thought it would. I found faults of my own after I evaluated and I really want to change them. I am going to care less about everyone else and what they think of me and do what I want. I usually don't care what other think but lately I have found myself really insecure and questioning myself. I guess everyone gets into a funk like this but I am not going to let it take over. I really want to be me again and so I am taking the correct steps to change myself back to who I like to be. Thanks Tone!!
Who knew a blogging could cause such deep reflections!?!?!?
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