I was thinking today that if girls spent half as much time and attention fussing about their intelligence and knowledge as they did about the way they looked they'd have a lot more interesting things to say. If I spend half the time I did getting ready for the day (which I must say has cut in half with each child) and put that toward reading a book or learning something new I would have a lot more fascination about me. HOWEVER. You don't ever leave a girl and say, "Man she said the smartest thing." You do however say, "Man, she looked good, she has lost weight." And you don't see guys gawking over the girl that said something smart, just the girl with the hot whatever in the flashy clothes. Therefore it seems more beneficial to girls to put most of their attention into their looks, their body, and their clothes because that is what gets rewarded the most. In general men don't come home and go man that was a smart thing you said, and take you into the bedroom. They do say those jeans make your butt look great......
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Maybe you don't ever leave a girl and say, "Man she said the smartest thing." because she never says the smartest thing.
Um, I am going to tuck this post far far away and try to pretend I am not offended. Especially by Kris's comment.
No amen for this thought of the day.
I was just being cheeky, Linds.
No offense intended - this time.
The last person that should take offense to this is you. You are my hero.
If it pertains to anyone it's me. I was just thinking man, if I spent half the time I do surfing celebrity websites looking at the clothes they wear and the way they do their hair, or reading fashion and beauty magazines and instead read or did something to learn about say... politics, or marine biology I would be pretty freaking smart. But instead I can tell you a whole heck of a lot of stuff about what hair products to use or what mascara is the best and if skinny jeans are still in style.
Hey no worries, that is what blogs are for...controversy. And Kris, I know you were just being a smart ass :) Hopefully you put up your thoughts here so that we can all share in them, whether they pertain to us or not. We all have thoughts that swirl in our head, some we just need to get out, frustrations that may in reality be true. Shoot I spend half of my life being neurotic over things that may never change or that really don't matter. So keep on posting your thoughts, I think they are awesome.
Here is my take on this particular issue:
"I was thinking today that if girls spent half as much time and attention fussing about their intelligence and knowledge as they did about the way they looked they'd have a lot more interesting things to say."
This is true. I couldn't agree with this statement more. But I think this happens to men as well. Women and men alike would be far better off if they would invest in their education regardless of if it is 'sexy' or not.
"Therefore it seems more beneficial to girls to put most of their attention into their looks, their body, and their clothes because that is what gets rewarded the most. In general men don't come home and go man that was a smart thing you said, and take you into the bedroom."
The problem here is, if women continue to think like this and then act upon this theory, we (women) will continue to play on an uneven playing field.
There is nothing wrong with caring about what you look like, put effort into and even take it up as a hobby. The problem lies within the base of knowledge that women think they need to do this in order to get a man's attention.
Unfortunately there is blatant sexism in this country, still. People have not seemed to figured out that a) this is the
21st century, b) woman can not only vote in this country but there are more woman enrolled in college than men, by over a third. And I hate to say this, but it is far worse in Utah than anywhere alse in America.
With this particular issue I do not take it lightly. I have fought these same demons in my head and in real life. But here is the reality, Toni, you are a smart woman, you know what you want and you struggle to find a balance in yourself. Any woman who uses her brain knows that it is an unphill battle to find a balance in this world.
And here is the important part to me. I want the next generation of girls to know they can have anything they want. It takes hard work and an investment in yourself, but it can be done. It is in the next generation of women that maybe, just maybe, the fervent sexism that still exists will be far behind us. It has gotten better and better, but if we can teach our chilren this important factor we are getting closer to what women deserve in this world.
Long winded, I know. Geez, sorry for the soap box post :) lots of love :)
sing it girl!
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