I have been thinking a lot about confidence. I believe that confidence is key in being successful in a lot of aspects of life. Let me rephrase that.. in MOST aspects of life.
People are drawn to confident people, just notice our celebrity infatuation. We are drawn to people who exhibit the things that sometimes we fail to uphold. We are all at times insecure. Even the most seemingly confident people have their insecure moments. They are just better actors than others. I think in business, parenting, partnerships, and everyday interactions the key is confidence. No one wants a anything that isn't secure in what they are doing. (And if you are not-FAKE IT). Many people are more successful in life not because they are better at a given skill, but because they are more confident. They get the job over the more skilled person because of their people skills and the confidence they portray in their interactions. I always and often unsuccessfully try to pursue this. Sometimes I talk to people and don't feel it so I fake it.
We are constantly selling ourselves to others in a way. To our children with our discipline, to our clients, to our class we are teaching, in our phone calls, and often to the cable company negotiating a lower monthly bill. In order to get people to buy what we are selling we have to appear sure of ourselves. If there is one thing I believe I am good at, is pretending to be. Of course no one is always secure. My self esteem and self worth is always fluctuating on a given day, in a given moment. I think it's how we handle ourselves and convince people to buy what we are selling that matters.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
A Word To Start Of The Week
Posted by Toni at 9:43 PM
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I have discussed with many people this same idea. Confidence is key to a lot of things in life. The downside I have noticed is that people often despise, while secretly envying, those who are confident.
My mother is a perfect example. That woman is smart and incredibly talented. She oozes confidence, but some people can't stand it. In a way I feel bad for her, but hey, at least she gets the job done.
I totally agree with you. Confidence does play a key role in many aspects of life, and even if people are overconfident or "cocky" they will more than likely succeed over someone who is not. It is a profound thought and one I think you hit right on. But how do we become more confident?
we actually were talking about this in young womens yesterday. They were saying that the reason people are popular is because they believe that they are and so other people believe that too. Good POST!
confidence is one of the many things i lacked growing up (and still have to fake sometimes). but there is nothing more attractive to me than someone who is confident. i find myself admiring them and trying to put myself around them more. it all comes down to truly knowing who you are, being comfortable with that, and then letting the world see the true you.
I agree and I think people can get the wrong impression if you are confident--but I think being confident is not thinking you are better than anyone else--it's just that you are happy with yourself and believe in yourself. I myself was brought up to believe I could do whatever I wanted in life, and I hope to pass that on to my kids. I think it is so key these days when we are so wrapped up in society and comparisons. We have to love ourselves. I think whatever you put your mind to--you can accomplish--and you don't always have to be the best or the most talented--you just have to be happy with you--wow sorry about my ramblings. I just liked your post--
I say reach for the stars!
I agree - I totally lack that way too much. I hate it. But from my point of view - it is also about surrounding yourself with people who are uplifting and only make you feel more confident about yourself. You can be confident and humble. I'm reading a book right now in which a woman thinks she is not a good mom or wife or anything, until she realizes that because she always doubted herself, it motivated to constantly strive to be better. Thus, she realizes that being a mother is the one thing she got right.
I beat myself up over the simplest mistakes as a mother and wife and I hate that I do it. But I have to look at the bright side and realize that it is the fire under me pushing to improve each week and each day. Good post ton - love you :)
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